My newly three comes into the kitchen and climbs into my lap while I do the Food Program Training, my homework to her. She burrows in and we talk softly and cuddle and as we do I remember a conversation at lunch about which teacher kids will have this year. One girl’s best friend from the beginning of kindergarten had begun crying when class placements were announced and the two girls were to be in separate first grade classrooms. “I was allowed to touch her head for a little while. Even though the rule is no touching other people’s bodies. It helped her stop crying. She was crying so hard.”

Touching is important. We all need to question rules against it. Enough said.

The girl is still here in my lap. I don’t think I could work with children in a place where touching wasn’t allowed.